kellementology

life according to me

Tag: mourning

  • Needing Company in Any Form

    Fuzz Ball Cat When I’m home, Precious (aka Fresh-ness or The Yack Star) is now rarely far from either myself or the RTR. And if neither of us is available, the doggo seems to do. She’s not howling as much as she was a month ago, but still does, and will respond when one of us howls back at her.Fat Cat We have entire conversations with her and have no idea what we’re talking about, so at some point, she becomes disgusted with us, turns her head away, and saunters in the direction of her food bowl.

    Usually, she’s got something to say about having just come in from the patio, or to remind us about food time.

    Cute Cat Food time has expanded from once a day to once in the morning, and then again 12 hours later. But she wants more so she can drown her sorrows over her lost companion of ten years.

    I understand. I’d probably want to do the same thing.

    I’ve thought a little of getting a kitten, but don’t have the energy to make a decision like that right now. Kittens are like babies. They need so much attention, it’s not fair to not be able to provide it, and right now, I can’t provide it.Stretching Fat Cat

    Besides, I don’t think the oldsters would appreciate the intrusion in their lives.

    But maybe soon…Drowsy Cat

    It could help that hitch in the doggo’s giddy-up and mend The Yack Star’s broken heart.

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  • Poignant homecoming

    I know I said I wouldn’t be here for a bit, but one of the main reasons I keep this little place in the giant scheme of things is to mark the passing of time and the aspects of life that punctuate it. You know — highs, lows, hilarity, and things that pierce the heart… IMG_5789.JPG

    Blackitty came home today. And as much as I can say that I am relieved, my emotions are a bit raw again, as I knew they would be.
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    As they should be.

    I had no idea there was so much support out there for people who have lost a dear pet.
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    I’m amazed. So I’m passing it along.

    The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement

    Pet Loss Support Page

    Furry Angel

    UC Davis Pet Loss Support

    Grief Healing

    Delta Society

    American Veterinary Medical Association

  • My Heart is Broken…

    I have been fortunate to have known many lovely cats in my life. If I proceed slowly backwards, with each name I recall, I can glimpse a bit of the life I was leading when I had each one, and smile remembering what knowing them brought to me.

    Blackitty (Mr. Blaxter Blackington) & Precious (The Yack Star)…Dear, dear Holis and his friend, Miss Mew…Rocky Lou…Yeller, Jasper. Tar Baby. Spark Good Buddy. Sissy Kitty. Tuffy. Big Kitty. Boomer…and so many others.

    A few of them have been very special. They had the quiet ability to soothe when the need was there. To calm. To provide warmth and a bit of softness exactly when it was needed. Somehow they just understood that their responsibility was to share themselves unselfishly. I can think of almost nothing else that is as simple, and yet so valuable.

    I lost the dearest one today. Blackitty. The loveliest cat I’ve ever had. IMG_0971.JPG

    I knew something was wrong, but I just couldn’t bring myself to deal with it. I didn’t want to imagine how it might be to not see him each morning in the bathroom after I’d dragged myself out of bed. He’d push open the door, slink through it, rub against my legs, and then stretch his velvety body with one paw pushed against the wall.

    He didn’t do that today.

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